Have you been to that self-love place?

Author: Nico Redelinghuys
Nico has been a Reiki practitioner for more than 15 years, and teaches both Usui and Karuna Ki Reiki. In his spare time he loves to craft anything from fairies, fairy doors, beaded bracelets and more. He is also a great advocate of a clothes free world, promoting body positivity and self-love.
Here I Am

Sometimes you go through life and then you meet somebody amazing, and HERE I AM!

Yup! I’m proud to announce that I am the one for me. I, myself and me.

When you change your inner world, your outer world looks different. I had that experience again recently.

Shortly after we came out of Mercury’s moonwalk somewhere in February this year, I hit a slump. Usually, they only last about 2 days, and then I’m okay again, but by day 5 I was starting to take notice that my mood had not shifted yet and that I also had no desire to try and change it.

So I made an important decision: change the wallpaper on my phone to something bright and cheery to remind myself that there are better emotions out there.

Incidentally, on that same day, I was scheduled to go gallivanting with a new nudie friend I had made. He was also a little down in the dumps and I was a wee bit trepidatious about how I was going to deal with him while not feeling too lekke myself.

Well, f*ck me blue and call me Delilah! Half an hour of naked sunshine and I was feeling bright and chipper again!

Maybe it was the bright and chipper wallpaper on my phone. Maybe it was my naked body on Sandy Bay’s beach under a glowing sun. Or perhaps it was my friend’s naturally cheery disposition, despite his mood…

Or wait: maybe it was my deliberate decision to get over my mood?

This is how self-love serves you: when you recognise that you are accountable and responsible for your own inner world, you can shift your narrative.

It is not the Universe that needs to change.


I have to make an effort to shift myself over each and every bump I encounter. And when I do that, the world around me takes on a different flavour, colour and texture.

When you change your inner world, your outer world looks different.

As a side note: I’ve come to the realisation that I am a city girl!

That is not to say I do not appreciate being out in nature, or that I dislike hikes and nature trails. But the excitement I feel being in the city, amongst the buzz and fret and cacophony of humans has been so surprising.

I am also more excited about regarding myself as “normal” since everyone else is busy conforming to the narrative of being “weird”, cuckoo, abnormal, strange, etc. Please take note, then, that if you want to offend me, you have to call me weird, strange, abnormal or something along those lines. I am really tired of everybody trying to show off how non-normal they are.

It is such a paradox, and barely anybody notices: when everyone claims to be weird, then ‘weird’ is the new ‘normal’.

For almost 20 years now I have bought into that narrative. Add to that the fact that most of the Spirichal community try to sell the fact that nature is better than the city, and that we should all WANT to go into the woods, the mountains or the sea.

All of that I now leave behind because I have found where I belong.

And that takes courage, and self-love.

PS: In the war between Humans vs Mother Nature, I will always vote for Mother Nature! I also believe that we can find ways to live with our technologies alongside Her beauty.

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